How to become happy in life

             

Happiness is within you. It is not outside you. If you want to become happy, you will have to change yourself internally. You are unhappy because you have filled your mind with negatives thoughts. Those negative thoughts are making you unhappy. People, with whom you live, shape your thoughts. Your surrounding also leaves an impact on you. Without removing those negative imprints from your mind, true happiness will not come in your life. Does a child stay unhappy in an early phase of life? No, gradually his minds start programming negatively.

Ways to become happy in life.

1. Try to be grateful- Being grateful has a magical effect on a mood. Gratefulness fills you with positive thoughts. You start looking positive aspect of your life. There are thousands of things for that you can be grateful. Many people help you in living a comfortable life. You can be grateful for them. There are also many things without them your life is not possible on this planet. But you have never thought about it. The reason for it is that we have a natural tendency towards negativity. Our Attention never goes towards a positive aspect of life. But if you want to be happy you have to see a positive aspect of life and learn to be thankful. To be thankful make a journal and note down 10 things for which you are thankful for. There are many things to be grateful like your life, house, food, and clothes. You may be also grateful for your parents, wife, and children who give the pleasure of relations. Make it your daily routine. Believe me; you will not stay the same person after a few days of practice. Your life will begin to transform and you will be happier than before.

2. Love yourself- If you don’t love yourself you can’t love anyone. You don’t love yourself because you rate yourself according to other opinions. You do everything to get an appreciation of others. Thus you become a slave to others. You lose your own identity and happiness. To overcome from this mentality, you will have to find your own positivity. Identify them and starts praising your own qualities. Begin from your body. What body part do you like most? Praise them. Overlook what you not like. Stand before a mirror and look your face and say some praising words. Make a note of your specialties and read when you get time. Morning time is ideal for it. Do it 21 days and more. Remember when someone has loved you. Someone has praised you.

3. Spend life in the present- If you learn to live in present your all problems will remove. Normally,  you worry about the past or future. Thus you waste your time and never get anything. You will have to learn to live in the present moment. To live in the present moment you will have to train your mind. Without training your mind to live in present, you can’t be happy.

To live in the present moment, practice meditation. Specially mindfulness meditation.

4. Avoid over expectation- Over expectation may stop happiness in your life. In fact, all sorrows arise from expectation. Your expectation may be from yourself or others. Leave them. Leaving expectation doesn’t mean you will have to live a saintly life. From leaving expectation, nothing will lose in your life instead you will be more satisfied and happy. If you are logical You may keep your expectation logical. You may remind yourself that I keep only logical expectation in life.

5. Avoid comparison- If you don’t stop comparison you will not be happy. There is no end of the comparison. The comparison makes you slave of others. be satisfied with your own life. Develop yourself as unique personalities. It is your own life. Think to live it your own way. Say loudly I am unique. I am special. I want to live my life in a unique way.

6. Don’t Be Perfectionist- Perfectionist never is satisfied in his life.   No one is perfect in his life. Seeking perfection is a type of mental disease. So leave it as quick as possible. Leaving perfectionist attitudes does not mean that you should not do anything to improve your life. Do everything to bring change in your life but don’t try to be perfectionists.

7. Accept yourself what you are- The biggest reason for dissatisfaction in life is that you do not accept yourself in your present condition. You want to be something bigger and Valuable. Nothing is bad in it. But it should not be at the cost of happiness. Finding happiness in life is the goal of life. Remember A Dissatisfied person can’t do anything important in his life. So bring change to your perfectionist attitude.

- remind yourself several times in a day, I accept myself whatever I am.


-Write it on a piece of paper and read it from time to time.

8. Don’t try to control everything- Don’t try to control everything in your life. You can’t control. But in this process, you would lose your peace. Those who want to control lose their happiness. Believe that God is only powerful who regulates our life. Whatever is happening in our life, it is happening according to his wishes. Surrender yourself to god and believe that whatever he will do, do well. To bring change in your attitudes do these things.

- Say I am surrendering myself to god. I know this world is regulated by him. I let happen as per his wishes. Whatever he will do, will be in my best interest.

9. Learn forgiveness- To become happy, you will have to forgive yourself. In the past, whatever mistakes you made, forgive yourself for that. You will have to understand that making mistakes is part and parcel of life. Everyone makes mistakes. There is no one in this world that has not done anything wrong. Try to learn from your mistakes. To be happy you should not only forgive yourself, but you should also forgive others. To develop forgiveness, remind yourself.

- I forgive myself for my past mistakes.

- I also forgive others for their mistakes.

10. The right atmosphere and Supportive people - To be happy in life, it is very essential to live with people who are supportive. Such people help you at each step. They praise your qualities. On the other hand, there are negative types of people who always search fault in you. The reason for it may be that they feel jealous of your merits. So never give importance to their views. 

-Remind that my critics are mentally sick. They have a negative mentality. Their life is not happy so they want to make me unhappy also.

-Remind yourself that it is not your weakness but their negative mentality is forcing them to criticize you.

11. Take your problem as an opportunity- Every one of us feels a problem in life. There is no one in this world that has been only happy. The problem comes in everyone’s life but someone fills up with sorrows while someone takes it easy. Someone aggravates his problem by overthinking. If you take your problem as an opportunity, your problem will not be a problem. It will change as an opportunity.

12. Spend time with family- Is family in your priority list? If not, include your family in the priority list. Remember your family supports you in every crisis. They love and care you. To become happy in life you should spend time with your parents, sons, and wife. If you are always busy then they may feel isolated. And when they will be unhappy you will also not feel happiness in life.

13.  Spend time with nature- One of the main causes of sorrows is that we are away from nature. It has been proved with research that those who spend their time with nature stay happy. There are many things in the world that can fill your life with happiness. Hear the chirping of birds. Feel the beauty of followers. Appreciate the beauty of the sun and the moon. Go on a morning walk and see the beauty of nature.

14. Believe in god-  There is power in belief. It can shake Mountain and it can make you happy too. When you have a strong belief that God is always with you and he helps and guides you. You feel relaxed. Also, believe God loves and cares you. Remind this yourself. 


15. Help others- Have you ever felt that there are many people in this world who are living in misery. You can help them to become happy.  Help those who are needy. By helping others you can get satisfaction in life.

16. Money  - Greed for money is bad. But money is essential to fulfilling your basic needs. If your basic needs will not fulfill you can’t be happy. But it is also a fact that greed for money makes you unhappy. So keep your expectation logical to money.

17. Having a purpose- Having a purpose is essential to be happy in life. Without purpose, you will be dissatisfied from your life. Your life will seem meaningless. You will feel boring all times. Having a purpose gives you sense that you are worthwhile. a purpose keeps you busy and gives you satisfaction. So, don’t delay and start living a purposeful life and be happy. Set a goal and make a plan to meet it. You will feel the change in yourself.

18. Follow your passion- Doing what you like gives you satisfaction. If you don’t do what you like you will be tired. If you like a painting, do it. If you like writing a poem, write. 

19. Take enough rest- Overtime work may take your peace and happiness. Judge your capacity to work. Make a timetable and follow it. Also, take rest of the short duration. From it, you will not only recharge but your productivity will also increase. Taking rest is not a wasting time. Remember you are not a machine. Work as per capacity.

20. No compromise with enough sleep-  Take sound sleep. Taking enough sleep will keep you fresh and energetic for the day. Without taking enough sleep all methods to be happy will not work.

21. Develop a habit of reading- Reading boosts your knowledge. It gives you a border perspective to see things. Reading is necessary not only for students but it is also useful for everyone. It changes you from a narrow mindset to border one. It keeps you away from negative things. Read at least one self-help book in a month.

22- Do something regularly new -  To become happy in life you should do something regularly new. It will save you from boredom. Try to do something different. Sometimes breaking your daily routine may give freshness and happiness. Go with your family in a restaurant and eat your favorite food.

23. Smile- Study shows that there is a correlation between a smile and your happiness. So smile whenever you get time.

24. Do Yoga or exercise- Physical works is necessary to be happy in life. The study shows that exercise makes you fit and happy. So exercise regularly. You also may choose yoga.

25. Eat a balanced diet- To become happy you will have to develop a healthy lifestyle.  Balance diet makes you healthy. In a healthy body, only a healthy mind may exist. Eat a diet which is full of nutrients. Avoid overeating and take light food.

26. Use your imagination to be happy- Imagine that you are spending a happy life. Remember our subconscious mind does not know the difference between imagination and reality. Why not use imagination power to stay calm and happy. In imagination, you have nothing to lose. Initially, it will seem tough to imagine good things but with practice, everything will become easy.