How to be happy alone

Spending life alone is not easy, especially for them who are social types of a person. Normally, people want to live with family members, relatives, and friends. They find pleasure in spending time with them. But life is not short. It is a long journey. In any phase of life, you may have to spend life alone. So you should know how to live alone.  You should know that on being alone, you can lead a happy life. You should adopt a positive attitude and should see it as an opportunity. You should develop independence. You should know that there are many people in this world who are spending a successful life alone. If they can spend a happy life why not you can spend.

1. Enjoy your own company- You have come to this earth alone and it is also a fact that you will go from this earth alone. No one can give you permanent happiness except you. We see many people who have wives, children, and friends despite that they are unhappy. What it proves? It proves that your attitude matters most.  It does not mean that family and friend are not important. They are important, but the most important thing is how positively you take your life. So start loving your own company. Become your best Friend. No one knows you better than you. You always try to please others. Once try to please you and see how happy you feel.

2. Develop Self-love- Respect for one’s qualities is self-love. It is generally seen that people lack belief in themselves. They do not know what qualities they have. Low self-love also makes a person’s personality crippled. He becomes irritated and unstable. The person who has low self-love does not love life. For him, everything seems gloomy. On the other hand, he who loves himself feels happy and energetic. So make your life happy by boosting self-love. Besides, keep a distance from critics. Criticism may decrease your self-respect. Thus, your happiness may lower. Make friends who have a positive mindset. Spend the time who love you and respect you.

3.  Arrange your home and make it beautiful— Decorating house may be a good decision when you live alone. The first thing about it will be that you can keep yourself busy. The second benefit of it is that your mood will be fine when you will see everything in your house in perfect order. You should also give special attention to your bedroom. Keep everything in the right place. Things scattering here and there may make you upset. Keep flowers pots in your home. Also, keep a flower of the rose or another smelling flower in your pocket and smell it from time to time. Its smell will make you happy.

4. See aloneness as an opportunity -Aloneness brings the opportunity to work with full concentration. There would be no one to disturb you when you would be alone. So use this opportunity in some constructive work. Do something that adds value to your life. Enhance your skill or pursue some long-term goal. Do something that you could not do because of your busy schedule. Now it is the perfect time to accomplish something worthwhile.

5. See life in border perspective- All your sorrows are the result of your narrow mindset. Joys and sorrows both come in life one after another. It depends on you whether you focus on joys or sorrows. If you focus on the joys, joys will manifest and if you focus on sorrows will manifest. Focus your attention on positive things so that positive things only manifest in your life. Know this secret of life and be happy.

6.  Figure out what makes you happy. Make a list of such things that give you happiness. People are unhappy for different reasons. Some are unhappy that they have not enough money. Some are unhappy that their relations with family members not good while some are unhappy that they could not do what they wanted to do in life. The list is endless.  Find out what makes you worry and tensed. In which situations you feel good. What types of thoughts make you uncomfortable? Prepare a list of all those negative thoughts and change them in positive statements.

7. Take life easily- In life, generally, many unwanted things happen we can’t stop it. It will happen whether we like or dislike. Our desire to stop unwanted things happening is the main cause of our unhappiness.  Any effort to stop such things will create strained in our life and let them happen will make us happy. So take everything easy. Repenting on petty things will only make us unhappy.

8.  Consider you as a perfect being- Consider you as a unique and satisfied entity. Think that you can lead a happy life alone. Many people have spent a happy life alone and many are still spending. Such people have not only spent a decent life, but they have also done something extraordinary.  So be independent and lead a happy life. Dependency will make your happiness short-lived. Permanent happiness in life can only come when you will become independent.

9. Value your own opinion- What you think about yourself is important. What others think does not keep importance. Trust in your ability. No one can know better than you. Only you can know your merits better. Only you can know your demerits.  You can understand that you are wrong or right. It does not mean that you should not take a positive suggestion from your well-wisher. You should definitely take a positive suggestion of others. But never undervalue yourself otherwise you can lose your confidence and there would be a negative impact on performance.

10. Observe your thoughts- Aloneness give you the opportunity to manage your thoughts. In a peaceful atmosphere, you can observe your thoughts and can know which thoughts can enhance your positiveness. By observing your thoughts you can know that many of them are meaningless. They are mere wastage. They are consuming your time and energy. By identifying your negative thoughts you can change them in the positive one by positive affirmations. Prepare your own list of positive affirmations and recite them from time to time. You can give your positive affirmation in hypnotism. You can recite your affirmations in a meditative state or you can give them at the time of sleeping. Morning time is also ideal for positive affirmations.

 11. Make new friends-Being alone doesn’t mean that you should not interact with others. In aloneness, you should try to make new friends. Being a social being you can’t cut off society. New friends will fill the vacuümof being alone. Increase your interaction and enjoy their company. With new friends, you would gain a new experience. But avoid people who are full of negativity because such people may leave a negative impact on you.

12. Do something for you- Normally, a lot of time of our lives spends thinking about others. In the race of life, we forget about us. Do something that pleases you. Do work that you like. Take out some time for your favorite hobby. Watch your favorite movie. Take leave and go on an outdoor trip. Read your favorite book. You can make your own list of things that please you. Make a plan to make yourself fit and healthy.

13. Develop your creativity- The best use of being alone is that you can develop your own creativity. Creativity will keep you engaged. You will also feel making progress in life from creativity. Creativity will give you satisfaction. And satisfaction will give you happiness. So start something creative. Join painting class or learn music or do plantation at your home.

14.  Plan your life -To make aloneness enjoyable, you should make a plan. Planning will make you systematic. Plan your life and give enough time for every activity. Keep a balance between your work and rest. Keep the balance between entertainment and your work. Give enough time to develop your skills and creativity. Balance in every aspect of life will give you feel good, life without planning will make your mood disturbed.

15.  Enjoy your freedom – Aloneness gives you freedom. You can enjoy your life in your own way. You can do whatever you desire. No one will be disturbing you. Plan a trip and enjoy your life. You can move freely on the road or you can go of your desire. You can also sleep as per your desire. You can watch your favorite show. Do what gives you pleasure.

16. Complete your desired work- Being alone gives you a lot of time to do your desired work. In the past, you will have thought to do your favorite work, but owing to the shortage of time you could not do. Now, you have time to do that. So don’t waste your time in useless thought. Make a plan and start doing. In aloneness, you can enhance your skills. You can improve your communication skills. You can learn Photoshop. You can learn to play any musical instrument. You can read your favorite books and can get mastery on a particular subject.

17.  Do something new- it is a perfect time to start a new project and accomplish that in a fixed time. You will have enough time to give. You will be free from any distraction. You can take breaks from time to time because you would not have a shortage of time. So use your time for something that adds value to your life.

18. Don’t be completely selfish- You are a social being. Living life only for you will be not meaningful. So do something for others. Bring change in the life of others. Help the needy. Being alone, you will have enough time, so do something for others. You can help others by doing some work or you can also help by giving them money. By doing selfless work your happiness level will increase and you feel positive changes in your life. You will realize that you are spending a  meaningful life.

19. Develop a healthy lifestyle- A healthy lifestyles start with getting up early and going to bed in time. It would boost your mood and make you energetic for the whole day. From getting up early you get up enough time to organize your life. Happiness depends on your physical and mental health. When you would be physically and mentally fit happiness would automatically come into your life. So start a healthy lifestyle. Join Jim to keep yourself fit. The Join Yoga class also may be a good option. Yoga is a great stress buster. It does not only bring your body in perfect shape but it also improves your mental wellbeing. You should also practice meditation for a few minutes daily. 

20. Know your area of interest- Everyone takes interest in a particular field. Someone may take an interest in painting and someone’s interest may be in reading and someone’s interest may be in some other fields.  Know your area of interest, and starts working in that field. When we do our favorite works, then it gives happiness while boring works make us upsets. Apart from it, if you work in the desired field you get success. And success ultimately changes to happiness.